Tuesday, April 07, 2009

被儿子说教


鸟人是我的爱好,鸟我的宝贝儿子也是惯常的事,但是周日晚上,却给他“鸟”,更贴切应该是"说教"。

宝贝儿子现念一年级,每天都有报写华文及马来文,最近也增加了马来文同、反义词。我那宝贝儿子在家讲华语,看电视是英文卡通节目,连简单的客家话都不会讲,更何况马来文!

我国教育规定马来文是最重要课目,所以每周日至周四,我都需要坐在他前面,给他报写国语单字和同、反义词。可以想像这对完全没有马来文背景的他,是多么困难的一件事。

周日晚上,我教了又教,让他写了又写,前后不到5分钟,他竟忘记,我一时火起,鸟了他一轮。

结果,晚上睡觉之前,他一本正经对我说:“爸爸,我觉得我应该星期五和星期六回家睡,其他晚上在公公、婆婆家,因为星期五和星期六晚上不需要读书,我拜五晚上可以看Ben 10。”

我说:“为什么你不要在家睡?”

宝贝儿子:“因为你和妈妈不疼我,每次教我读书都要骂我,你不知道我的脑这么小,不像你那样,你长大了,你的头脑跟着你的头一样长大,我还小,所以我的脑还小,装不进这么多。”

“爸爸你知不知道,我的头脑小,装不到这么多东西,你教我这么多,新的字进来,就把旧的字推出去,所以我会忘记罗。”

听了他的一番话,我难以辨护或回鸟。我心理说:“孩子,爸爸so so so sorry,我会注意脾气,不会随便骂你,也会留意你的注意力和记忆力。”

"孩子,我只要你尽力,马来文只要求你有70-80分就好,但我不能说出口,否则你就会作怪,不尽力。"

8 comments:

啊利 said...

現在讀書真是很辛苦。真的,小小的腦袋,怎樣塞得進那麽多東西。大人有時讀起來都感到吃力,更何況是小孩子。

李少的寶貝孩子也道出了教育的分別,老一輩的人都比較有耐心去好好的教,重復又重復不厭其煩,然而現在可能生活的步伐快了,學的東西也多了,相對來説已經沒有這種耐心和時間一個個慢慢教,只有拼命的塞。說沒有要求其實騙人的,不想孩子被淘汰,就要一直push他。 有時候,也不知道爲了什麽。

大米 said...

你儿子和我儿子真的可以做friend了。
你去看看我的贴子,我儿子刚给我最后通牒了。

Anonymous said...

Give your kid time and don't make him to have a feeling that studying is a very tough work. If you can, buy him more colorful books in order to stimulate him to read books. Then, he will be more independent and love books. This is my experience. Try also to grant him a reward like going to KFC or McD if he can achieve his goal. He will be more motivated then. All the best to you and you kid. Your kid is so cute! ;D

qojop said...

大人有时候也会比较难设身处地为小朋友着想。但这也是无心的。有时我们总是会比较心急,一个不小心就超过了孩子的负荷,所以拿捏分寸也是大人不断在修的学问。

anyway,你的孩子很可爱,一副很机灵的样子!

林季 said...

唉,这个年头,真是不是以理服人。就像公司要改五天半,就对我们“说教”(管理层也建议“非永久性”实施上述措施,却未交代如何补偿),没有几人不鸟公司。孩子的逻辑有时候比我们还清晰,只是大人的世界更不讲理!!

借:张永修的话。

如果叫你暂时放弃你的信仰(即改教),你可以得到工作,等到大马变成非回教国的时候,才回复你原本的信仰——这种说法可以成立吗?可以相信吗?

northborneo said...

谢谢各位英雄好汉鼓励,我会尽力而为。老实说,他是很窝心的小孩。我想我了解甘为孺子牛的意义。

朱刚明 said...

The government owes us an explanation why our kids have to study so many subjects unnecessarily, especially on the BM which has been set to such an incredibly (difficult) level that is far ahead of their age. The degree of Difficulty and their age are simply not compatible.

Learning is a slow process, it should progress with times; we should not be rushed into unfair situation by "overloading" and "rushing" which causes both the kids and their parents stresses and sufferings.

What are they (Education Department or the Minister of Education) trying to prove from these kids?

Our new PM should really look into this matter seriously and revamp it immediately as the majority silence does not mean condoning the wrongs of the minority.

As I'm also a "Victim" of the mistake of the Education System; I'd like to appeal to all the parents in Malaysia to stand up against the ludicrous education mistakes and rally behind this movement for educational change (or reformation) for the goods of the country.

Violet said...

一物兞一物。
你注定被他“吃到死死”。